In my many years as a teacher/ trainer I have worked with hundreds of people, both adults and children. Early on, I made the discovery that it is in fact impossible to “teach” another human being. Sure, it may be possible to “help one learn,” but without one’s willingness, personal effort, and conscious internalization of the experiences, the result will not be of value to either party. This finding has prompted me to research the inner workings of the human mind. I looked at the process of taking in new experiences, digesting and assimilating them, and then testing them against reality to ultimately believe and call them our own.
I have found that our minds work best with pictures, which can at a single glance, convey significantly more information than a word or group of words alone. Most concepts people struggle to learn become much more accessible when presented in a clear and concise manner, particularly when conveyed with images. Words tend to mean less and less the more they are used, whereas a concise graphic for most of us, can easily file to memory.
The first graphic I want to explain is the familiar “bulls eye” or set of concentric circles illustrated below.
I call these circles of awareness and each contribute to the value of the whole.
The center circle represents awareness of self: one’s desires, wants and needs.
The next circle includes the first, but adds the awareness of others as having desires, wants and needs of their own.
The next includes the first two, and builds on an awareness of the relationships existing between the first two.
The outermost ring, which encompasses all of the others, signifies the interconnectedness of all relationships as a whole.
I will use my own awareness of wanting to buy a house as an example.
I have a motivation to seek out a goal: I want, therefore I shop.
When I include the awareness of how others’ goals compete with or combine with mine, I am operating in the second circle of awareness.
Who else wants to shop? Who wants to sell to me?
Understanding the relationships between the various participants—neighbor, friend, father, Realtor, loan officer—defines the roles that each must play in order to obtain my goals and reveals the necessary compromises to avoid competition.
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Very interesting way of looking at this concept. I am sure many will benefit from your visual and explanation.
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